Here's what Heather had to say.
Hey Everyone! It's me, Heather. Update:> >
Today I filed for child support payments against my ex who threatened > to take my kids away b/c I have WG's. > > I also asked for ten years back payments to the tune of $19,450. and > change.> > Should be headline news in about three days.> >
Poor State's Attorney. You know, his office is the one that > supposedly enforces child support payments against dead beat dads. > The irony.>
> I feel like a mama bear - someone came way too close to my cubs.> > Tell you more.> > Dead tired now. But for a good reason.> > Hugs and thanks to everyone out there for your support!>
> Heather
Hey Everyone!!!!!
Wow - thanks a ton for your support. I feel like I have found a new home. You are ALL so wonderful. By the end of the day, I was wiped out. One half of my face was raging from my trigeminal neuralgia and covered with an ice pack, while the other side was smiling...almost snickering...that I finally had the courage to do it.
Let me fill you in on your math. We have joint custody, so the kids spend some time with him...so the formula was lower. It was 209.00 a month, but the Court Order dictated when the payments started, etc...and we're not yet at the end of a year yet. For the last 7 years I was the City Attorney for my City while my ex was the State's Attorney. He always told me that he could have the Mayor (for whom I worked) fire me (I can't believe I bought that, but politics is a strange beast) and he also said that he could have Social Services take the children with a wave of his hand. He said if I ever filed against him, the pleadings would just disappear. I was intimidated. I admit it. I'm not proud about that.
From the City, I was recruited by a national law firm and worked for them for 3 years until I decided to open my own practice. (after 17 years of working for others). Virtually the day after my grand opening I started wheezing and had blinding headaches. Sinus infection and infection....you know the drill. The local Dr.'s gave me so many Rx's for antibiotics that they totally stripped by body of magnesium and I landed in the hospital. I was misdiagnosed there and sent home.
Eight LONG months later I found Hopkins and was dx'd within 5 mins., literally. I always needed the money, but was terrified to ask. He totally abused his position of power to intimidate me. When I called 911 after he hit me, he hung up. They called back and he told then who he was and the the kids were fooling around on the phone. After he hung up he turned to me and warned me never to try anything like that again...or else. I went to the hospital and my arm had a minor fracture.
I'm going tomorrow to get my records. I told them that my ex had hit me - and who he was - and insisted they write that in the report. I was too scared to call the police. I guess I was a real pushover. What a looser.But TODAY, ALL THAT CHANGED. I know the Clerk of Court, so I pulled her aside for a private chat. I told her what I filed against Charlie and that he said he could make the file disappear.
After all, it's his office that would normally enforce my contempt motion. She is a friend of mine. She assured me that would not happen. In fact, she opened a secret double file...to be kept under lock and key. God Bless her. Tomorrow, I am going to file a Motion for Modification - my circumstances have changed, I am unable to work, and he needs to pay me much more. My mom, the judge, found me a lawyer to help me. I am calling him tomorrow. I couldn't find a lawyer in my County that would take my case for fear of retaliation.IT DOES INDEED SOUND LIKE A CNN STORY.
I am so proud of myself. I'm in a mild state of shock.I did it. I did it. It makes me feel powerful and strong, and I believe it will help me fight WG's too. I'm gonna kill two birds with one stone.
Thank you all sooooooooo much.
xoxoHeather
Well, you can imagine the flurry of e-mails that hit our WG site concerning Heather and her plight with her ex . This is unbelievable, but true. She is fighting for her very life and existence to take care of her children and protect them from their father.
It is understandable why she would not want him to have total custodial care. I suspect she would be worried that he might harm his children. This ex needs to be sent packing and the general consensus is we would love to pack his bags and hall him to curb for waste management to pick him up. Talk about having no morals or values. His name is written all over those two words-lack of.
Heather received e-mails stating that other mothers with WG would fly in and testify on her behalf stating what it is like to have WG, but you still can take care of your kids. Another lady, who is so incensed with her ex physically and emotionally abusing her offered to fly in and sit in the courtroom as support. When this group decides to rally and support each other, they are more than willing to help. We all realize that we are all in the same boat, and paddling in the same direction and when one of us isn't able to paddle for a bit, the rest of us take over to keep us all afloat.
Well, I must say that there is no finer group than ours-people from all over the US and foreign countries that share their trials and tribulations because of one disease that has us trying to survive from day to day. We have lost so many to this disease, but those left behind continue to shine in spirit, kindness, goodwill, sympathy, empathy and the continual desire to help others.
Truly this is our reason for being. Putting Heather back on that train, where she is the driver. (previous blog-worth checking it out several times-it lifts your spirits).
My faith is restored as I see the outpouring of love, concern, support that our Heather deserves.
May you find the support you need in times of crisis'.
I have Heather's theme song waiting right here for her any time. You go, Wynonna. Sing it like it is.
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